Coaching a Younger Me

Today I had the opportunity to speak with a friend who is me from 15 years ago. I shared thoughts with her that I wish someone shared with me 15 years ago. Different work decisions could have been made, professional situations could have been handled better, and career lessons could have been learned more quickly. I wish someone showed me a different perspective. I wish someone had dissected situations or conversations with me. I wish someone had pointed out that while I was generally a logical and rational person, I potentially could be misreading cues. I wish I had someone … Continue reading Coaching a Younger Me

If It’s Alright with You… I’m Doing Nothing This Weekend

Actually I don’t care whether or not it’s alright with you. According to the World Health Organisation, stress is the health epidemic of the 21st Century. Everywhere you turn, people are stressed. There are many reasons for this, but it mainly boils down to our busy modern lifestyle and the way our reptilian brain is programmed to help us avoid life threatening situations through the fight or flight response. But prolonged exposure to this level of heightened anxiety compromises our immune system and causes inflammatory responses. Chronic stress leads to chronic illnesses and pain. Dude, people are stressed. Not just adults, … Continue reading If It’s Alright with You… I’m Doing Nothing This Weekend

Stress = Belief about (the Difference Between Expectation and Reality) Less Coping Mechanism

2018 was a brutal year for me in terms of physical and mental health. There were days when I really thought, oh no, I’m never going to be well enough to handle life, let alone get back to work. But here I am… almost back to myself. I used to think that Stress was a direct result of Reality or S=R.  People also have said that Stress is how we see our Reality, or our Belief of our Reality, so maybe more like S=BxR. Some also define Stress as the difference between what Expectation and Reality. So more like S=E-R. … Continue reading Stress = Belief about (the Difference Between Expectation and Reality) Less Coping Mechanism

In 2019, Working on Unfu*king Yourself…

My recent focus in life has been on health issues and now that I’ve dealt with two of my biggest issues (CPAP machine for sleep apnea and the Mirena for the pain from adenomyosis), one would think that my life would magically fall in place and I would no longer be struggling with all the negativity in my head, right? Wrong! One would expect that I would now have headspace to do all the things I had not been keeping up, that I would now be at 100% and productive, happy, and satisfied. Right? RIGHT!? Nope. Weirdly, I’m actually more … Continue reading In 2019, Working on Unfu*king Yourself…

The I in Team

‘There’s no I in team’ is an oft quoted idiom, but it’s time to turn that on it’s head. You cannot really be a part of a highly functioning team until you deal with the I in the ‘A’ hole and make sure that you’re not bringing your s*** to the table. Actually, you cannot truly be your best anything until you deal with the I and the impact that I has on every interaction. At the core of every interaction is the I. And the I can be broken down into: Behaviour Intention Narrative Guess what? One can only … Continue reading The I in Team

The Chinese Restaurant Approach to Teamwork

The best teams I’ve ever worked on had a few things in common: Mistakes and flaws are acknowledged, forgiven, and compensated for, Expertise and strengths are respected and relied on, Everyone more than pulls their weight, because those who do not, do not survive for long. I like to call this the ‘Chinese Restaurant Approach’ to teamwork. (My other concept for this is Unleashing Your Mutant Powers, but that’s for another blog post.) I first espoused the virtues of the management of Chinese restaurants when I found myself getting increasingly annoyed with Western restaurants’ staff ignoring my requests for water … Continue reading The Chinese Restaurant Approach to Teamwork

Two Steps Forward…

Today I received a nasty email from a self proclaimed b****. I’ve often heard her proudly describe how she nastily put down some idiot who obviously was not competent. ‘I know, I’m such a b****’ she would scoff with a condescending grin. When I would stand up for those she put down, she would only roll her eyes, re-emphasizing how useless other people were. The last time she sent something like this, I wrote her a short note (taking off all the people she had CC’d) and apologized for perhaps asking the question in a way that made her misconstrue … Continue reading Two Steps Forward…