(Duplicate blog post as the final one from Kung Fu Mama.)
After pondering this for a few weeks, I have decided that it is time to shut it down! The Kung Fu Mama blog has been a labour of love and a documentation of my journey between my first breakdown and my second one. It was a reflection of the me that was trying to bridge Tiger Mom to find an approach that could bring me the balance of health and happiness that I was seeking for me and my family, especially for the kids.
It’s not that the Kung Fu Mama approach didn’t work… it’s that… it… wasn’t… quite… me. I am not a Kung Fu Mama. Not yet anyway. I haven’t earned the title and I don’t want to commit cultural appropriation for something I have so much respect for. My amazing Kung Fu school is still going to be a big part of my life, but the next stage of the journey begins with a new profile: Healthy Joyous Mama. This is the me I can be when I’ve achieved balance, when I’m confident, when I’m comfortable.
It’s simple: there is no magic bullet, no panacea for our problems, no one way. Only daily habits, baby steps, moving forward, learning from our mistakes, growing, developing, loving, figuring. We just set our goals and make our way there. And my goals are health and joy. It’s pretty simple.
It’s complex: it’s all inter-related, everything affects everything else, no one REALLY knows, do they? We can only plan when we can, hope for the best, prepare for the worst and GO FOR IT! My health goals are physical, mental and spiritual. My joy goals are for me, my family, my friends and my work. None of this can truly be compartmentalized, they all kind of ebb and flow into each other. It’s pretty complex. It’s so hard to balance.
It’s about balance: We have THIS MUCH time and energy. We have THAT MUCH to do in order to get what we want (even if it is for as small a goal as getting through the day). We need to INVEST in what can help us and REDUCE what can harm us. Pain and suffering tell us that something is not in balance. Shutting out or avoiding that discomfort means that we aren’t learning the lesson… and it will keep coming back. So… the simple answer is: when in imbalance or feeling pain, figure it out. And the complex answer is: there are many moving parts, figure it out.
Peace and love to you all.