I’m not sure how we started, but during our after dinner walks, A2 started a little game where he makes anything I throw at him into a negative thing. Like…
Me: Chocolate ice cream. You can’t find anything negative about chocolate ice cream.
Him: It has a lot of sugar and sugar is really unhealthy for you.
Me: Going to the water park. You LOVE going to the water park.
Him: It’s dangerous, you might hurt yourself, you have to spend a lot of money…
Me: But… but…
Him: I’m really good at this, I can find the negative in anything!
After about 5 nights of this… it finally occurred to me that 1) I did not much like this game and 2) I could do something about it! So I looked him in the eye and challenged him. I said: “So I know you’re good at this and you definitely can flip anything I say into something negative. But I bet you can’t do it the other way around…” He took the bait! “Yes, of course I can! It’s easy!”
Me: I just bought hot chocolate, and I spilled it all on the floor.
Him: Well, hot chocolate has a lot of sugar in it, so instead of having all that sugar, you don’t, which is much healthier for you.
Me: But… I just spent all that money on it and it’s totally wasted. Ha, gotcha. I bet you can’t find anything positive from that!
Him: Where did you buy it?
Me: Um, Starbucks.
Him: Okay, well, they will replace it for you.
Me: Ooh, you’re good. I think they would, too. Okay, I just bought a new car and then I accidentally drove it into the lake.
Him: Well, at least you are safe. Maybe your car didn’t make it, but you did. Plus, you have insurance.
Me: Wha..? I thought you were good at being negative, but I think you are even better at being positive!
Him: Yeah, Mommy. I can be very good at being positive when I want to be.
He was able to turn every single thing I said into something positive. And he used a lot of words or phrases that I had been using when I was playing his original game… I love it when people throw my words back at me!
What a positive evening!